1. We should always talk to each other politely with respect.


Dae Mo Nim spoke to women about the importance of a wife’s words toward her husband as follows:


You have to watch your language. When you speak to your husband, you should not roughly say, “Did you do it?” “Did you eat?” or “When will you come back?” You do not have to say it too politely by using “Could you please?” or “Would you please?” But at least you should use polite words and respect your husband. If you respect your husband, your children can respect him as their father. (March 27, 2002)[1]


Rev. Jeon Soo-won (36 couples) also advised us about the importance of always using polite words with respect in the daily conversation between a husband and wife.


From now on, every day you should make efforts to use at least one phrase that makes your wife happy. Even if the meal is not so delicious, you may say, “Yah, it’s so delicious, thank you.” Even though the relationship of the husband and wife is the closest one, you must attach importance to manners. You should not have a frivolous conversation with your spouse. You should talk to each other using polite expressions with respect.

You must not have a casual, frivolous talk with your spouse as if you were speaking to a casual friend. Why not? This is because all of your talk with your spouse influences your children. Women must absolutely respect your own husband. If the wife does not respect your husband in front of your children, your children will not respect their father.[2]


As a matter of course, a husband should also talk to his wife with respect. Some languages (e.g., Japanese) have a conspicuous difference between the male daily language and the female daily language and an implicit bias against women in their languages. We should make efforts to speak a new language of true love in the new Era after the Coming of Heaven.

[1] Dae Mo Nim, “Let’s know myself and change my life,” CheongShim 7 (November 2002): 26.

[2] Jeon Soo-won, Kanshasuru Shinkou (Thankful faith) (Tokyo: Kogensha, 1996), 168-169.

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