- We should bow down to the picture of True Parents, recite the Family Pledge, report (pray) to God facing each other and holding each other’s hands, and bow (down) to each other at the end, every morning and night.
If a husband and wife live together, I recommend that at the time of starting a day in the morning and at the end of a day before going to sleep in the bed, the couple bow down together to the picture of True Parents, recite the Family Pledge, and report (pray) to God facing each other and holding each other’s hands.
My wife and I liked to offer a full bow to each other lowering the head all the way down to the floor. However, if you and your wife are neither Korean nor Japanese, the couple may make a slight bow to each other while standing and hug warmly after greeting to God and True Parents ideally with a full bow. My wife and I also made it a rule to hug each other and to say each other, “Let’s do our best today,” or something like that to encourage each other in the morning, or “Thank you very much for your hard work for today,” to show thanks at night, after bowing to each other. It is important for us to practice the daily-life habit of expressing love and respect not only to God and True Parents, but also to our spouse each other.
Here is Dae Mo Nim’s advice on the importance of offering a bow to God and True Parents and reporting (praying) to them every day.
Every member has a picture of True Parents at home. The picture has a meaning that True Parents who are united with God can come to your home and are indeed at your home. God and True Parents exist not in a place far away from you. You must think that they are always spiritually watching your whole life. It is very important in our life of attendance that we thank God, who is the origin of true love, and True Parents who have come as the substantial embodiment of true love.
When we live in the evil world, in the realm of Satan, it is very difficult to live without the protection of God and True Parents. I recommend that you offer a bow to the picture of True Parents in the morning, saying, “I will really live with God today. I will work centering on God and True Parents, without showing any self-centeredness and arrogance.
When you come home after the day’s work, you should examine whether or not you have lived the entire day with God, saying, “Heavenly Father and True Parents, thank you very much for allowing me to come home safely. Thank you very much for allowing me to come home without any accident from this evil world.” You must make this kind of practice your daily-life habit. You cannot faithfully live a life of attendance if you live a life half-heartedly.
Since May 2004, we have entered the new Era after the Coming of Heaven, and True Parents directed us to change the style of reporting (praying) to God after we entered the new Era. Because the 6th daily-life habit involves the couple’s daily reporting (praying) to God, I will explain more about this change in the style of reporting (praying) here.
At the gathering to celebrate the Foundation Day for the Nation of the Unified World on October 3, 2004, in Korea, True Father instructed us that representative reporting (prayer) to God in official settings, such as on Church Holy Days, should not be done alone by a single representative leader any longer, but by a representative couple (a husband and wife together) in the following posture.
- When offering the prayer-report, the representative leader no longer stands alone in front of the altar facing True Parents or facing the congregation, but the representative husband and wife will stand together facing each other.
- Both the husband and wife will slightly bend the fingers of both hands, extend both hands in front of each other, place each other’s right hand with the back of the hand upon the palm of his or her spouse’s left hand, combine each other’s fingertips in both hands, and lightly hold hands with their fingertips. Then, a couple offers a report (prayer).
True Parents offered a report (prayer) to God with this posture in the Holy Marriage Blessing Ceremony of the Parents of Heaven and Earth Opening Cheon Il Guk in 2003. When True Parents officiated the Marriage Blessing ceremonies in their world speaking tour in 2005 and 2006, the officiator-couple and all the couples who received the Marriage Blessing also took this posture of facing each other at the time of the benedictory prayer-report.
In the Era after the Coming of Heaven, all the couples who received the Marriage Blessing have taken this posture when the officiator-couple offered the benediction. At the time of the Marriage Blessing of our ancestors at the Cheongpyeong Training Center, all Blessed couples who represent their ancestor couples are now also directed to take such a posture at the time of the benedictory prayer if both the husband and wife are present as a couple there.
In my interpretation, this change of posture corresponds to the change of God’s mode of existence from the old “Era before the Coming of Heaven” to the new “Era after the Coming of Heaven.” In the old Era before the Coming of Heaven, or the age of the fallen world, especially before “the Coronation Ceremony of God’s Kingship” performed in 2001, God was an “existence of complete transcendence” to the fallen world in most of the time. At that time, it was not always possible for God to dwell within us because of evil spirits or low spirits dwelling within us.
After the Coronation Ceremony of God’s Kingship in 2001, however, God’s providence made rapid progress. It culminated in the dawn of the new “Era after the Coming of Heaven” on May 5, 2004. It has become possible for God to descend to earth and always live, as an “existence of immanence,” with our True Parents and with us Blessed couples on earth, if we are completely united with them, in this Era after the Coming of Heaven.
Specifically, since our True Parents moved into the Cheon Jeong Peace Palace in 2006, they have become the substance of God’s temple, and God now always resides in True Parents on earth. Thanks to the great victory of our True Parents, the new providential age has dawned when we can unconditionally receive the special grace of “the realm of complete freedom” from Satan’s accusation. Therefore, as the representatives of the victorious True Parents, we Blessed couples can now become God’s branch temples wherein God always dwells.
Revelation 21:3 of the New Testament prophesied the advent of “a new heaven and a new earth”: “See, the home of God is among mortals. He will dwell with them; they will be his peoples, and God himself will always be with them; he will wipe every tear from their eyes.” The new Era after the Coming of Heaven corresponds to the age of the advent of “a new heaven and a new earth.” In fact, True Parents declared:
We are in the era after the coming of heaven! I proclaim the beginning of the long awaited new heaven and new earth, which billions of your ancestors in the spirit world, who have come and gone in history, have yearned for. This is the era of the kingdom of the peaceful, ideal world. (February 23, 2007)
We can say that the new Era after the Coming of Heaven is the new age when the prophecy of the Revelation in the Bible is to be fulfilled.
In this manner, God, who existed only outside our Blessed couples in the past Era before the Coming of Heaven, can now reside within us and dwell with us on earth in the new Era after the Coming of Heaven. We can probably say that the time has come when we Blessed couples are allowed to fully represent “True Parents of Heaven, Earth, and Humanity.” They are sometimes referred to as “the horizontal True Parents” and have now become the complete substantial manifestation of God, who is sometimes called “the vertical True Parents.”
Because God basically existed externally outside of the Blessed couples in the past, when reporting (praying) to God, we did so with the outward posture of facing an altar with True Parents’ picture. In the new Era after the Coming of Heaven, however, we are now allowed to offer reports (prayers) as a couple with the inward posture of facing each other, in the sense of reporting to God who is dwelling within us. Today in the new Era after the Coming of Heaven, even if True Parents are present, the representative Blessed couple are to offer a report (prayer), not facing the True Parents, nor the altar, nor the congregation, but facing each other with both hands extended and clasping each other.
In this manner, the new Era after the Coming of Heaven is the age when we Blessed couples can manifest ourselves as God’s substantial being or God’s living temple and dwell together with God. We can say that, in accordance with such a providential advancement, the posture of the Blessed couples’ reporting (praying) to God has also changed.
In the old Era before the Coming of Heaven, when Blessed couples prayed together, they faced the altar with True Parents’ picture. However, in this new Era after the Coming of Heaven, we are now allowed to offer a report (prayer) as a couple facing each other and holding each other’s hands just as True Parents have done in this new era. Of course, it is not a sin for a couple to offer a prayer in the old style of facing the altar. Nonetheless, I believe we Blessed couples can receive and feel the greater God’s grace if we offer a report (prayer) together as a couple facing each other and holding each other’s hands as a clan messiah who represents our clans.
My wife and I personally changed the style of our couple’s reporting (praying) to the posture of facing each other with both hands extended and clasping each other. As a result, we became more deeply conscious that God does not reside in heaven far away from us outside our home, but in fact dwells within the bodies of our couple here on earth. As we looked at each other’s face while reporting to God, the spouse’s face sometimes appeared to be like God’s. Consequently, more and more, my wife and I came to feel each other as a precious reflection of God’s duality of masculinity and femininity.
 Cheongpyeong Training Center, ed., Seiyaku Jidai-no Cheongpyeong Yakuji-to Shukuhuku Katei-no Michi (Cheongpyeong works and the way of Blessed family) (Seoul: Seonghwa Publishing, 2000), 186-187.
 The Holy Bible, New Revised Standard Version.
 Sun Myung Moon, Pyeong Hwa Hoon Gyeong (Seoul: Sunghwa Publishing, 2007), 223.
- 10.We should make love at least twice a week
- We should always talk to each other politely with respect
- We should always hold each other’s hand