1.We should always walk hand in hand when we go out with our spouse.
As for the first habit of “always walking hand in hand,” I would like to introduce True Parent’s speech delivered on May 5, 2005, the one-year anniversary of Ssang Hab Shib Seug Il (The Day of Total Victory with the Unity of a Pair of Fives).
It has become a rumor here that Reverend Moon is always walking hand in hand with his wife. Usually in Korea, the husband keeps walking on and on ahead of his wife, who walks behind him. Then, the wife wonders, “How busy is he, walking that fast?” Reverend Moon, however, walks hand in hand with his wife. (May 5, 2005)
Dae Mo Nim has also repeatedly mentioned that True Parents always hold each other’s hand while walking outside, and she has taught us that we Blessed couples should emulate them by always holding each other’s hand in our daily lives.
True Parents hold each other’s hand while watching TV and while walking outside. True Parents always hold each other’s hand in their daily lives. You know that, don’t you? True Parents say, “Follow us by watching our lives.” … (March 27, 2002)
True Parents are the ideal model for all the Blessed couples and always “walk hand in hand” in their daily lives, not only in the United States, but also in Korea. Up until now, just as in Japan, Korean top leaders such as the President and the First Lady, the chairman or president of a major company and his wife, have never had a habit of walking together hand in hand in public in Korea. All the Blessed couples, however, should emulate True Parents and practice the culture of true conjugal love in the new Era after the Coming of Heaven without being influenced by the old traditions of the past age.
Hyung-jin Nim also always walks hand in hand with his wife, Yeon-ah Nim. When he frequently guided our CheongShim Graduate School’s hoondokhae in the fall semester of 2006, he always walked hand in hand with his wife between a car and our Chapel on the fourth floor of the main building without fail before and after the gatherings. I was very happy to see their beautiful scene of walking hand in hand.
As we can tell from the practice of using our fingers and palms during the Holy Song sessions at Cheongpyeong workshops, “special spiritual energy” comes out of our fingers and palms. That’s why I recommend walking “hand in hand” rather than “arm in arm.” So if we walk hand in hand as a couple, we can give and receive the effect of a hand massage, which contributes not only to our spiritual health but also to our physical health. I wholeheartedly recommend “always walking hand in hand” just like True Parents; it is part of the True Parents’ rules of health: “Become an absolute Blessed couple of one heart and one body.”
May 5, 2004 was the beginning day of the Era after the Coming of Heaven, and True Parents declared the day as Ssang Hab Shib Seug Il in Korean. Because there was no official English translation, I have translated Ssang Hab Shib Seug Il as the “Day of Total Victory with the Unity of a Pair of Fives” and explained its meaning in English. Ssang means “a pair.” Hab means “unity.” Shib means “ten,” which also symbolizes perfection and totality. Seug means “victory.” Il means “day.” Therefore, it has a meaning of the day of total or perfect victory that consists of the unity of a pair of fives.
When walking together, or watching TV together, or sleeping together, and so on in the new Era after the Coming of Heaven, a husband and wife are advised to hold each other’s hand, and every time when the husband and wife hold each other’s hand, it brings about the unity of a husband’s five fingers and a wife’s five fingers. Therefore, we can view it as symbolizing the “Day of Total Victory with the Unity of a Pair of Fives,” that is, Ssang Hab Shib Seug Il, which is the beginning day of the “Era after the Coming of Heaven.”
When we walk hand in hand, we should sometimes remind us that “walking hand in hand” brings about the unity of a husband’s five fingers and a wife’s five fingers and symbolizes the “Day of Total Victory with the Unity of a Pair of Fives,” which is the beginning day of the “Era after the Coming of Heaven.” We should always walk hand in hand and at least sometimes give deep thanks to God in our hearts for the fact that we now live in the unprecedented new “Era after the Coming of Heaven,” when a husband and wife can completely become one and when God can dwell within us.
 Sun Myung Moon, “A speech delivered at the Dedication Ceremony of the Headquarters of the FFWPU,” Family 438 (July 2005): 47. Translation is mine. If the original source of quotation is not written in English, English translation will be all mine throughout this book below, but hereafter I will omit noting, “Translation is mine.”
 Dae Mo Nim, “Let’s know myself and change my life,” A speech at the 61st 40-Day Workshop, CheongShim 7 (November 2002): 27.
- We should sleep naked together in one bed every night
- We should always talk to each other politely with respect
- We should always hold each other’s hand